Sorry (not sorry), going to chime in on the Roy Hibbert “no homo” controversy that’s kinda boiling over on my Twitter feed right now. A few people have been understandably noting that that certain expression has a context beyond what most people (read: white) have been giving it credit for and then some others see that their context-giving as a defense of that expression.
I think that when those within a (sub)culture spend enough time within it to the exclusion of other cultures, they end up seeing criticism coming from the outside as being solipsistic and whatnot without realizing their own shortsightedness. No culture, especially ones that exist in North America in 2013, exists in a vacuum. I understand the desire for context but instead of wagging your tongue at outsider criticism and basically saying, “but you don’t get it!” and leaving it at that, maybe you could calmly, and respectfully, explain why something like “no homo” should be allowed. If you can’t even attempt to rationalize it to an outsider, especially to an outsider who could possibly be impacted by this kind of language, then maybe you should think about whether you’re on the right side.